Wherever I am...
"...sleep is the single most effective thing we can do to reset our brain and body health each day..." - Matthew Walker. "Why We Sleep: Unlocking the Power of Sleep and Dreams" 
The DC five:
** I hope everyone's having a great spring break. I’m currently on travel, so the note's a bit short this week.**

  1. While traveling, I was feeling a little rundown, so this talk on How to Keep Going from Austin Kleon was quite welcome. Speaking of keeping going, cutting calories may help you live longer. As you’re enjoying those extra years, have you considered your skin regimen?
  2. How do black women describe navigating race and culture in the workplace, this HBR piece offers a window. 
  3. It turns out luck isn’t as arbitrary as we once thought and there is a way to beat social anxiety. Also, people who have this one view of their partner are twice as happy in life. Speaking of happiness, Denmark’s got something to teach us here in America.
  4. The person who’s best at lying to you may surprise you, but if you’re telling yourself you can’t do your art and have a day job, you may want to think again. But let’s focus on you. How well do you know yourself? No matter how well you do, just remember to be kind to yourself — it could make you healthier
  5. if you’re struggling with a mid-career crisis, here’s what you might want to ask of your employer. You may also want to consider whether you’re just working long hours or a workaholic — one of these is good, the other … not so much. And don’t forget, when it comes to how you spend your time, “no” is a perfectly acceptable answer.
How to go back home 🏠
They say you can never go back home again. There’s something to that. I am, as I write this, sitting a few blocks away from my old apartment, surrounded by the sights and sounds of the city I love most in the world — Washington, DC. I am so, incredibly happy. I am hugging friends I have missed for months, I am eating foods that light warm fires under chilled memories. I am content.  

But it’s not home. It can’t be — at least not the way it was. I can’t be younger (not that I necessarily would like to be). I can’t unlearn what I have learned in the years I’ve been gone. I can’t reset the landscape that surrounds my home. I can’t go back to what home was, I can only embrace the place it has become.  

Nostalgia is a funny thing. It creeps out from behind corners, slips into dreams, and a taste or a smell can bring a flood of memories back. It passes, like a wave. Some waves are stronger than others, but they all eventually fade. The problem arises when you float away with the wave, and you let another crash into you and another, until you’re caught in the undertow of memories, left reminiscing rather than living in the moment with which you’ve been gifted.  

It will be a year soon since I moved from Washington, DC back to California. It has taken all this time for me to return home and not feel hollow, as if I abandoned my chance at home. I never thought I would be able to make a new home anywhere else. All I could see was months of wandering from place to place or a year here and a year there. Now, I’ve made peace with the fact that home is not a place where I stay — it’s whatever place I am in.  

I accept that I live in California now. I have made my home there, because I am there. While I will always love DC, and it will be home to some of my most favorite memories, this is not home. That’s not to say it won’t be again. So, you can never go back home again … because home is wherever you are.  

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