Free up...
"I can't get to sleep 
I think about the implications 
Of diving in too deep 
And possibly the complications 
Especially at night 
I worry over situations 
I know will be all right 
Perhaps it's just imagination” 
The five:
  1. Do you have a sibling? Do you fight? Of course you do. Here’s the guide you need. Oh, and by the way, be nicer to your middle sibling, apparently they’re going extinct. Meanwhile, let’s look at another long-term relationship: marriage. If you’re a millennial, it’s likely you’re prepping one of these 💰. After all, if we just leave life to its own devices, entropy will make a horrible mess, so better to stay on top of things, right? Oh, speaking of entropy, of course stock market returns over the next 10 years are going to be a pittance (well, that’s what it feels like to this millennial). Also, if you’re planning a road trip with your significant other, these tips are gold 💰, and there’s sex ed for adults 💰because, "According to a recent fact sheet from the Guttmacher Institute, a nonprofit devoted to reproductive health, in 2014 fewer than half of American high schools and only 20 percent of middle schools taught students all 16 topics that the CDC considers 'essential' to sexual health education." 
  2. Are you angling to make some of that sweet, sweet cash through passive income? My pal Khe makes a solid case for why passive income is bullshit. Speaking of fecal matter, there’a full episode of Call Your Girlfriend about it. When you’ve calmed down and finished giggling about something we all do, check out this essay on whether meditation actually works. Also, where William MacAskill, co-founder and President of the Centre for Effective Altruism, shares “the one cognitive bias [he] believes is the most damaging to any business, organization or individual”. And here’s a guide to the counterintuitive tricks to asking better questions 💰. 
  3. As soon as I think the #MeToo movement is vast, it defies my comprehension. This piece on what men say in therapy in the wake of the #MeToo movement 💰— and how they are healing (thank goodness!) — is one of the best pieces I’ll read this week.  
  4. "Whenever we are at the point of accepting or rejecting new information, we should ask ourselves: Where does it come from? Does the source have a good reputation? Who are the authorities who believe it? What are my reasons for deferring to these authorities? Such questions will help us to get a better grip on reality than trying to check directly the reliability of the information at issue.” We may actually be in an era where it impossible to ask that every one be a fact-checker. Speaking of facts, "If you were faced with two entrepreneurs and knew nothing about them besides their age, you would do better, on average, betting on the older one.” That’s according to researchers at MIT Sloan, Northwestern’s Kellogg Innovation and Entrepreneurship Initiative, and the U.S. Census Bureau 💰(top notch folks). Their research shows that the average age of the successful startup founder is 45. Yes, 45. Not 22. Not 18. 45.  
  5. Positive people are amazing, and surrounding yourself with them can lend you a very potent superpower. 💰Meanwhile, here’s a deep-dive into the T-shaped nature of Ernest Hemingway. While written for a male audience, I see no reason why I and other women can’t take Hemingway’s “penchant for autodidactic education", love of athletics and larger-than-lifeness and use it too.  

💰 = Paywall, though please do consider paying to read what people write. Writers like to eat too. (Apologies if I miss one…) 

How to make time for yourself ⏰
This weekend, I could have done my normal routine, but I chose not to. Instead of waking up, going to yoga class, eating breakfast and diving into my laptop, I decided to go for a very long walk — nearly three hours in total. I ran a few errands, grabbed a smoothie, and listened to a podcast. Other than that, I just kept moving — one foot in front of the other.  

Routines can help you find clarity, but they can also be a little prison in which you can lock yourself up. Suddenly, all of your time is going to your routines; there’s no time left for you. Then, before you know it, you’re waking up on a Saturday wondering when you’ll have time to do the new things that you want to do, rather than the things your routine dictates for you.  

So, today, I threw my routine out the window, which is risky since habits, once broken, are difficult (and sometimes impossible ) to get back. That being said, sometimes it’s worth risking the habit to see how you might spend your time differently. I think of it a bit like experimentation. I know that the experiment I’ve been running for weeks or months is already working. Now, I need to see if I can figure out a new experiment to run. I may try something, and it bombs (for example, walking for three hours in a day is not something I see myself doing every Saturday). Then again, I may try something else and it really works out well (such as waiting until the latter part of the day to start writing, and using the morning for errands). So, I’ll try to make that a new routine going forward.  

I used to think “make time for yourself” meant sitting around and doing nothing or that it had to be on a resort far away from home. Sometimes, it means freeing yourself from the every-day routine, creating space to do things differently and discover new patterns that better fit your life as it evolves and changes.  

Time is an unstructured box, which can make it frustrating and lead us to make routines. Those routines can be incredibly comforting, but they can deprive us of opportunities to experience new things. So, every once in a while, it my be good to break your routine, if only to make time for yourself — and the new things that interest you.  
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